A Letter to the Women in my Life

letter to my women

Dear My Women,

Being the International Women’s Day, I take this opportunity to appreciate you for being in my life. Being the strong pillars of the universe and the neck of this world. Thanks for being bold and standing with me… and being the epitome of strength. You are the strongest people ever, and I envy you big time!

To these two old women

They will definitely not read this, but I’ll start with Grandmas. Incredible, funny, intelligent, beautiful hot messes. You gals don’t even look your age and the wrinkles on your bodies are the most flawless ever. Your hugs are the warmest, and you’re always trying to feed me which is good since I like to eat. Roast banana, mukinde, mukimo, millet porridge and even your roast maize are the best I have tasted ever and are probably going to be the best I taste in my whole life. Thanks for your daily prayers… I am told you sill mention me by name every day. I will never forget your swollen legs when you traveled all the way to Kakamega to my graduation. You are the women that kept the families intact. Thanks.

My grandmothers on my graduation day
My grandmothers on my graduation day

To the most important woman in my life

My mother, you may not read this… or you just might. You have been stalking me on Facebook so anything is possible. If you do, know this… you are my first love and you will remain the most important, irreplaceable woman in my life. Yes, yiu stand head and shoulders over all women. From you I learned love, I learned patience, I learned silence, I learned strength. Everything I am is down to you. You live inside me looking out while everybody else lives outside looking into me. You took care of me and now is my time to take care of you, so, sit back, relax and enjoy life. Never miss anything as long as I am breathing. I love you,

To the Developing Women

To my sisters, I know you watch every step I take. You may think I am the epitome of control and success so your expectations are huge, but know that I am not a superhuman. I am normal, with challenges and all. I am just older than you and you don’t have to follow my steps – let no one pressure you. It is your life and you should live it however you want – but I hope you will be successful in whatever you do.  I want you to know that things are going to be hard sometimes. You’ll get so overwhelmed that it might get hard to breathe, but I promise if you get up and walk away from whatever it is for a little bit, that when you come back, you can conquer it. I’m always just a phone call away to help. People are going to break your heart and be mean to you. It is going to suck. But it’s a lesson to learn from. It’ll show you how strong you are. Lastly, in as much as I respect your decisions, I will be disappointed if you depend on people to make your ends meet. There will be pressure from friends for the finer things in life that make young women go for the rich, abusing old men. You don’t need a sponsor to be successful in life. Never let any man play between your legs for anything – not even a car and home.

Be Bold women don't need sponsors Kilimall
Yes, be bold and achieve your dreams on yourself.

To my Mushene women… and more

My girl friends. You make the majority of my friends. Yes, most of my friends are women. And it is all for a reason. You are so raw, you say what you feel, okay, you may not say, but you show it – you cry when you are upset, you laugh when you are happy. You tell me when you think someone has lost it, from the girl wearing yellow stockings to the guy who forced his girlfriend who we both know, to procure an abortion. I love your mushene – it is both entertaining and it gives me a lot of content for my writing. You have a friend in me and thanks to all the girl friends who have not used me visivyo in life. And rightly so, you will meet bad friends and great friends. Learn from that. It’ll show you how great your friends are, or aren’t, by who comes to stand by you during tough times. And on the other hand, you’re going to find people who are kind and caring and treat you with the respect you deserve to be treated with. Try not to lose those people, because they’ll help you keep perspective. Even if you friend zoned me…sawa tu.

Last and very importantly…

To my future wife, read this when that time comes. You’ve touched my life so deeply in your own way that you’ve helped me laugh and become my own self. Thank you so much for being a very lovely partner. I love you from the bottom of my heart.I have found that out by being with you. Having you in my life has brought me more happiness than a lifetime could bring. You are not just my partner, you are my lover. Not just my companion, you are my inspiration. You are not just my wife, you are my life. Thanks for everything, you give me wings.I gave you my house, you made it a home. I gave you my heart, you made it your abode. I gave you my soul, you made it your own. Thanks for everything. I will try hard to be a perfect husband to you, and the best father to our kids.

I will stick to you like your shadow. Or, wait! I am your shadow! #HappyValentinesDay

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Not forgetting my exes… thanks for the lessons. 🙂


Yours Forever,


27 Comments A Letter to the Women in my Life

  1. Keren Shayne Kubai March 8, 2017 at 8:09 am

    Mmmmmmmmh wat a sincere heartfelt letter….classical.thank u

  2. Winnie Munene March 8, 2017 at 8:20 am

    Asante sana my all time favourite Rancho..we shall revenge when international men’s day comes..I doubt if there is one anyway.Thanks buddy.

  3. Fridah Sheshe Maore March 8, 2017 at 9:30 am

    Ooh wooow!!Wat a lovely article…Thanks so much calif…Ur posts hav always been A MUST READ for me..I love ur articles

  4. Jedz March 8, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    Wow..awesome piece. Thanks friend.

    1. Jedidah Nkunja March 8, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Of course a brother and a friend. Best friend to be precise.

    1. Frank Kenyan March 8, 2017 at 2:59 pm

      Happy Women’s Day to you, too, man. 🙂

  5. Liz Jepchumba March 8, 2017 at 6:01 pm

    Mmmh,at least I was kumbukwad ….Thanx Nthaka wetu

  6. Richard March 8, 2019 at 12:41 pm

    great Staff

  7. Liz Chege March 29, 2019 at 9:36 pm

    Apo kwa mushene seriously who even wears yellow stockings? 😕. And to mum, that was my favorite. Mum’s are everything!! Add, daughter else kutakuwa na tantrums throwing when she learns to read. 😁

    1. Frankline Mwenda Kibuacha April 24, 2019 at 6:25 pm

      You clearly don’t know the people I know. They wear weird stuff. 🙂

      Of course mom hapo juu. And I wrote this before my daughter was born

  8. Dian mukiri March 8, 2022 at 5:48 pm

    You’re the best brother God gave me….. your stories empower me, and every time I feel unworthy to the world I get back to them and realize how worth I am and strong… you inspire not only me but whoever reads, I’m 100% sure rereads again… blessed among all


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